Hi there list-lover,
Lately I’ve been focused on getting the very best out of my life. When you work in a really fun industry, it’s hard to separate life from work – it all seems to blend together sometimes. Before you know it, you haven’t had a break in six months and some of life’s little luxuries have taken a back seat to more ‘important’ tasks (such as getting to email zero).
I consider myself an eternal student of the work/life balance. I’ve gotten it terribly wrong in the past, and completely burnt myself out trying to be everything to everyone. As a fellow over-achieving list-lover, this situation might sound familiar to you. When’s the last time you did something just for yourself?
I sense a spiritual shift happening in our culture in regards to this balance, where we’re looking for more than just downtime and holidays – we’re seeking total fulfilment. This may have something to do with the availability of information through technology (we never switch off), and the abundance of social media (oh crap – that person is having more fun than me).
One way I’ve found to instantly feel like I’m taking good care of myself and that I have my sh** together is to ‘upgrade’ certain areas of my life. Here is a list of things you can do NOW to feel more looked-after, fulfilled, and maybe a little bit more luxurious:
Just get rid of all those old clothes you never wear, books you’ve read or will never read, and anything that makes you feel sad. Give it all away or sell it on Ebay. Decluttering will make room for shiny happy new things that will uplift you. If this scares you, let me ask you one question: Have you ever felt like you didn’t have enough ‘stuff’? Probably not.
Here are some more de-clutter possibilities: junk drawers, kitchen cupboards, utility closet, bathroom shelves. Also how about E-clutter? Unsubscribe from those meaningless social network notifications, and from any marketing emails from stores that sell cheap, low-quality products.
Got any socks, underwear, t-shirts, leggings, etc. that have holes in them or are a yucky faded colour? Throw them out NOW! Buy yourself good quality replacements. You’re too amazing not to have amazing underpants.
Put away your out-of-season clothes (you won’t need that beanie hat in June. Just DON’T.) and make a list of the clothes/shoes/tights you’ll need to replace next season because they’re just not fresh anymore.
For me, this means things like spending £20 a week on fresh flowers for my home, or always having a Diptyque Figuier candle on the go. It means not going for the cheapest options when buying your groceries (I love a bargain, but the body is a temple yeah?). Buy the best quality sheets and towels. Whatever makes you feel spoiled and luxurious.
I splurge especially when there’s something to celebrate – like when I tick off one of my big goals for the year. I need to splurge like this because I’m goal-driven and I like to be incentivised, a habit I learned from my advertising sales days.
Treat yourself as much as possible to massages, manicures, hair appointments, and good quality skin and beauty products. I had a £15 blowout at Cheeky Salon last week and I felt flipping fabulous. Also, go to bed a bit earlier – if you think of this as a treat to yourself, your sleep will be much more high quality. I like to think of all the things I’m grateful for before I fall asleep, it helps me wake up in a good mood the next day! Way less frown lines in my future.
Get out in the sunlight, if there is any (I’m London-based so this is a challenging one. I make up for it by eating lots of tropical fruit and pretending I’m on the beach).
5. Make a (wish) list
Of course making lists is the answer to everything, and in this case I recommend setting upgrade goals for different areas of your life. For instance, you usually holiday somewhere cheap and local, but you’d rather be in a 5-star resort in St. Barth’s. Or you’re currently on a career/income plateau and you’ve not had a income jump or promotion for a while – it’s time to address that and plan your upgrade. If it’s written down it has a much larger chance of happening! But you knew that already, you’re a list-maker 🙂
Here are some things on my wish list at the moment: a red convertible Porsche (more achievable than I thought! Thanks AutoTrader), a luxury holiday in the South of France, a massive piece of art for above the sofa, a personal trainer, a big Cuisinart food processor (it’s kale slaw season).
Recent upgrades I’ve made: gorgeous pima cotton towels, a house full of peonies (my fave flower), a metallic silver Pierre Hardy clutch, back-up pairs of my favourite shoes, and a brand new non-stick Le Creuset deep frying pan.
I really hope this list helps you take steps to feel completely looked-after and spoiled. If you have any ideas for other ways to ‘upgrade’, please feel free to share them in the comments below.
Jess Indeedy xx